On the cusp of fatherhood…

As I explained in my last post here on May 10, I curtailed most of my social media activity to my Facebook account over the past few weeks. At the time, I realized I was closing in on 10,000 Twitter posts on my @bktandem account and I wanted to make sure I used that milestone tweet to announce the birth of my first child.

Well, I’ve written this advance, but I will be making this post visible to the public as soon as my wife and I are on our way to the hospital to bring our son or daughter (it’s going to be a surprise) into the world. That means this post will probably generate tweet No. 9,998, giving me one more to burn before the birth announcement in my 10,000th tweet.

Anyway, I have to be honest…I’m nervous about being a parent. For the first time in 41 years, I’m going to be responsible for another the welfare and protection of a human being. I know millions of people do it all the time, but I really never saw myself as one of them. But I have a wonderful wife and feel that I will be up to the challenge…it’s just weird. Everything is going to change over the next few hours…and that is good. But there’s still anxiety…about my role as my wife’s labor coach…about the well-being of my wife and child…about my decisions as father during these early years…and so much more. Like computer software I experience for the first time, I guess I’ll just have to work with it until I figure it out…at least to the point I’m effective with it.

The other thing I wanted to mention here is the social media policy I have planned for my child’s early years. Basically, except for when there are milestone occasions or other gatherings of family and friends, I won’t be posting a lot of photos of my kid online…and even then, it will likely only be on Facebook shared with family and close friends. But I can’t see my wife and I putting any random, semi-private photos of our kids online for anyone outside our families to see…and even those will likely be rare. And we likely won’t be doing many “hey, guess what my kid did today” posts, if at all. You know…didn’t our parents embarrass us enough with baby photos and silly stories about our early years? Well, why are we now as parents putting all that crap online so when our kids are old enough to venture into social networking, they have access to it. Talk about embarrassing…I’m just not inclined to do that to my kid. We’ll take photos documenting our child’s growth, but we’ll put them on an external hard drive or private online galleries, and let him or her decide what he or she wants to do with them when old enough to join social networks.

People have assumed that because of my social media activity level, I would be sharing everything my kid does on Twitter, etc. Well, I have made a choice to share my life on social media. It’s only fair that I give my child that same choice.

Why I won’t be tweeting much until July

A couple of months ago, I realized I was going to send my 10,000th post to Twitter at some point this year. At the time, I thought the milestone would come no sooner than mid-July, but I just happened to check the other day and noticed I was only 25 tweets away. That’s probably due to an unexpectedly high number of tweets related to the craptacularness of the 2012 Philadelphia Phillies.

After tonight’s huge Sixers 79-78, playoff series-clinching win over the Bulls in Game 6, my tweet count stands at 9,983. Once this post is published, it will also go to Twitter and put me at 9,984.

I estimate that 98 percent of these 9,984 tweets were inconsequential and unimportant. So I have decided that I want my 10,000th tweet to mean something. I would hate to think I may casually use that milestone to tell the world for about the 1,000th time that Phillies pitcher Kyle Kendrick sucks or use it to retweet a funny quip by a fellow fan or beat writer.

Since my wife and I are expecting our first child in early July, I would like to use that 10,000th tweet to announce the birth of my son or daughter (it’s a surprise). Therefore, I’m going to refrain from doing a lot of tweeting until that day comes.

I’ll still be reading my timeline and chiming in every now and then…hopefully, after another Sixers playoff round win…or two…or three?! But once I hit 9,995 tweets, I’m going to stop tweeting entirely until my wife goes into labor. Fortunately, the Phillies being so bad is actually helping at this point, as I’ve entered that phase where I now feel they’re just not worth tweeting about.

So if you don’t see me on Twitter much over the next eight weeks or so, this post explains my absence.

And, if you missed it when I posted this here in late December 2011, here is the horror/sci-fi teaser trailer I made to tell my family and friends about our new addition…because I’m a huge geek…

Baby Kelley Teaser Trailer